Once there was a boy.
He was not like other children. Sometimes he didn't feel like other children.
He was far from perfect. He would be able to do some things well, and some things not very well at all.
But his family loved him deeply, even though he often found this hard to accept.
He doubted himself a lot. He struggled with who he was and who he was meant to become.
He wondered a lot about himself.
But then something happened that would change everything.
In an unpredictable act of love and grace and hope, the boy's parents adopted another boy.
An improbable boy.
Another boy who was not perfect, who sometime felt out of place.
This boy would be able to do some things well, and some things not very well at all.
But his new family loved him deeply, even though he often found this hard to accept.
He doubted himself a lot. He struggled with who he was and who he was meant to become.
He wondered a lot about himself.
And the first boy and the second boy found that they were not alone. They felt much in common. And they were part of the same family who loved them both deeply.
And as they grew, the first boy learned from the second boy. He learned a lot.
He learned to laugh at himself, even when he felt like a dill. He learned to have a go at things that would seem difficult. He learned that parents are there to help you - because the first boy did not much liked being helped by anyone. Mind you, neither did the second boy. In fact, "I can do it myself!" seemed to be an attribute of all of the children in the family.
The first boy learned that who you are is not defined by what you can and cannot do. The second boy began to teach him that your character and your spirit are not defined by your achievements or your failures. Who you are is defined by whose you are.
As they grew older, the first boy and the second boy talked less for a time, and then more, and less, and then more.
At times they learned from one another. At times they encouraged one another. At times they just listened to each other, for the second boy could talk for a very long time. And they felt that they understood one another, deeply.
The improbable boy was the unexpected joy, the unasked for gift, the undeserved redemption, for he brought an honesty of being, a transparency of hope and desire, that unmasked others. He could see through you, but he still wanted to love you. You thought he needed you, but you needed him, even if you weren't sure why.
Don't think for a moment that the improbable boy was a saint, unless saints are there mainly to bother you into letting go of parts of you that you didn't need in the first place.